Let’s go back to the “person with a lot of options” type.Even those types fall in love and settle down, but usually not with someone who went into the relationship tolerating his/her lack of commitment and with a motive to change him/her.Or perhaps you have some limiting beliefs about your worthiness, which are fueling your pattern of chasing after crumbs.
Whether that is true or not true is irrelevant to me.
The bigger question is why in the world would you try and convince someone to be with you?
I also challenge you to be honest about how much you truly value commitment.
If you are chasing after someone who does not want to commit and judging that the other person has fear of commitment, look in the mirror.
Trust that we all have a lot of options when it comes to relationships, but that the one relationship we MUST have is the one with ourselves.
If you want to attract a wonderful, loving partner who treats you the way you want to be treated, you will do that when you love yourself and treat yourself with respect, kindness and love. We often get so mesmerized with the attributes of a person (i.e.what they look like, their personality, what they do in the world, etc.) that we overlook their values and what they are actually telling us they want!Granted, at the beginning of any relationship there is some wooing that goes on.When we first start dating someone, it’s natural to put a little more effort in so the other person knows that you like him/her.Are convincing and chasing really part of the love story that you want to tell?