She had just taken a position at a hospital where I knew there were many young doctors who would be working alongside her.
I expected that she was going to be pursued by a number of them. It took me a while to figure out why, Sally had become invisible.
These are usually discouraged by employers, but take place anyway.After a certain age, however, many of the other workers are already married.Other people seem to have no trouble finding someone to marry. Over the years I have been a practicing psychiatrist, I have known a number of people who married the same person twice, and, recently, someone who married the same person three times!I have never understood these repeat marriages to be a response to a dearth of other potential partners.It is just that getting away from a spouse for a while sometimes allows a couple to remember all the good times they had together back in the beginning of their marriage.
They tend to forget those other matters that led to their divorce—until they remarry. Usually, dating relationships spring up in three different settings: first, by meeting other people in the same community.I thought she was very attractive, although she did not think so.Of course, I could not tell her my opinion because she would have dismissed it out of hand, as she would that of a parent or a close friend.Usually, when people work in the same setting, they begin after a time to smile at each other when they pass in a hallway.Or they comment vaguely on some aspect of the weather while they are waiting together for an elevator to arrive. She wore a lock of hair over her eyes; and she looked away when someone looked at her in passing.I was talking some time ago with a young, but not very young, friend of the family about how come she had not married.