“Relationships, platonic or otherwise, are initiated out of mutual interest or compatibility, and the draw of attractiveness is certainly a primary factor,” says Ivankovich.“But since many of the same characteristics that we would seek in a romantic relationship are the same ones we seek in a platonic relationship, it is no surprise that many friends find each themselves interested in each other.”If it hasn’t gone anywhere just yet, here’s why—from the perspective of single men.1. If you only see your guy friend sporadically, you might not be on his relationship radar just yet.You two have obvious chemistry—you flirt, you chat, you hang out—but the buck stops there. Since this generation of singles is more emotionally-evolved than ever before, traditional dating norms have basically been tossed out the window, says psychologist Karla Ivankovich, Ph.
It’s such a bummer to find out that someone who has expressed interest is not available because she needs to ‘focus on herself’ for a bit.”5.
He doesn’t want to disrupt the friend and group dynamic.
“From my experience, women hate the idea of clearly explaining their interest.
It may not be as ‘romantic’ as you’d like, but at the end of the day, if a guy is not sure about your interest, he won't swing.”3. Be honest with yourself: Are you on the fence some of the time, unsure if you want to move your friend chemistry into a full-blown relationship? Jeff, a 45-year-old ad agency owner, instantly hit it off with a female co-worker, who he was interested in pursuing after he moved on to a new job. A collection of mixed signals, like skipping my goodbye happy hour and ghosting me on some texts that dropped hints about grabbing dinner,” he says.
There's nothing wrong with that—especially since you might actually feel the same way.
But if you're feeling it with a friend, it's worth thinking about making a move.
The attraction he feels is more of a slow-burn instead of fireworks.
“Sometimes you don’t feel anything right away, but over time you come to realize it may be more,” says Josh, a 27-year-old public relations specialist.
“Yes, there is a chance the friendship might be ruined, but at the end of the day, your partner should be your best friend—so if you already have that dynamic in place, you're off to a good start.
As we've said before, heterosexual guys and girls can't really be friends, because in almost every situation at least one party is just biding their time until the other person lets their guard down and finally lets them smash.
The friend zone (a term which we object to on principle but will use for convenience sake here) can be a chill place when you and your guy friend have both agreed that's where you'd like to be, but as literally every sad Reddit commenter has taught us, a lot of guys are only in the friend zone because they don't know how to get out if it.