Aside from concerns about even making time to date, I was curious about my new dating pool.How do I best “market” myself on-line to men in their late 30s-mid 40s?
But, if my successes, failures, and embarrassing experiences can be used as a way to teach and generate more research questions about relationship science, or at the very least get you to laugh with or at me, I am willing to be the sacrificial lamb. I recently started on-line dating using the free website, Plentyof While I expected my re-entry into the dating world would be quite different from when I was out there last, I had no idea just how different.After slamming a few glasses of Pinot, I hammered out a personal profile, threw a few photos up, and made myself publically available for dating consideration.A few days later it was evident that I needed a personal assistant! Am I “lower pressure” now that I already have kids? In my desire to be honest about my life circumstances, I said that I was only interested in casual dating and had no desire for a committed relationship.Harman's research examines relationship behaviors that put people at-risk for physical and psychological health problems, such as how feelings and beliefs about risk (e.g., sexual risk taking) can be biased when in a relationship.
She also studies the role of power on relationship commitment.
I would interpret your status of not wanting a serious relationship and being open to casual dating to be 'easy to get' not 'hard to get' and so you're getting lots of men looking for the 'low hanging fruit' so to speak.
If a woman says she's looking only for a committed relationship then she's 'hard to get', and will get fewer responses, weeding out the 'hookup' guys.
I could not keep up with the sheer volume of emails from men ranging in age from their late 20s to early 50s. I never got that much attention when I tried on-line dating in the past! Apparently, this was interpreted in vastly different ways by my potential suitors.
I would estimate that 1 out of every 4 emails offered either a make out session, a “romantic rendezvous” when their wives were out of town (yes, actual quote), or better yet, an occasional F’buddy. As a psychologist, I should know that one of the oldest and most effective selling tricks capitalizes on the scarcity principle.
When I tried internet dating in my early 30s, I was looking for a more serious relationship. The more unavailable or unobtainable something is, the more we perceive it to be of value.