The older person, for his part, gets a higher-energy companion who is likely to help the couple stay fit — and, quite likely, more sexually active.But won't the "junior partner" eventually have to pay the piper?In fact, because I don’t give a damn what anybody thinks and because I think I look great naked, I’m secure enough to focus instead on making my partners feel good about themselves. I remember one man I dated — 20 years old, gorgeous, body of a Greek god — sitting on the side of the bed one morning as I complimented him, saying to me shyly, “You make me feel really sexy.” People looking for love could benefit from operating on my principles of approach to sexual relationships.
Maybe, but I suspect another dynamic is at work: Women don't want to feel maternal about a lover, nor do they want to see themselves as a mother figure in a lover's eyes.This aversion may have stopped some women cold who were hot for younger men.I meet people from very different walks of life: men who are the first in their family to have gone to college; who have ambitions they’re making happen any way they can.Yes, the sex is great, and the six-pack abs are nice, but what I also get out of my approach to dating is meeting men I admire and respect.Perhaps the best known are 68-year-old Michael Douglas and 43-year-old Catherine Zeta-Jones, who have bridged their quarter-century age gap to stand by each other through a long partnership (and some recent serious health scares).
Or look at 65-year-old Rolling Stones guitarist Ronnie Wood, who made 34-year-old theater producer Sally Humphreys his (third) bride in December 2012.
(Unless, of course, they were named Cher.) But all this prompts a bigger question: Is it smart or stupid to take on a partner 20 years younger once you hit 50, 60 or 70?
The answer to that question may lie in your answers to these: Just as age has its rewards, so do age differences.
I believe everyone should be free to design the relationship model that works for them — and for me that’s dating younger men. I respond to maybe one percent of all the approaches I get.
I have one criterion first and foremost: He has to be a nice person.
The younger person gets an experienced companion who is often better established in the world.