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I have felt for a long time that I have to walk on eggshells around him…I’m afraid to say or do the wrong thing around him because I never know what will trigger his anger or harsh criticism.The link will open the quiz in a new window and you can come back to the article in a bit.) When you read it on a page, though, it’s hard not to ask, “Why would anyone ever want to be in a relationship like this?And if someone is in one, why in the world would they stay in it if it’s so clearly bad?The three main factors that lead people deeper and deeper into a toxic relationship are fear, comfort and what I call “the emotional roller coaster” effect. Maybe she wanted a rich guy or a really masculine guy or a handsome guy or a smart, successful guy or an artistic guy or a popular guy or whatever.
She gets into a relationship with this guy and she says, “Great, this is the type of guy I wanted and now I have him.” So on some level, she feels she has something of value just by virtue of having (or potentially having) a relationship with this type of guy that she values instead of solely evaluating the relationship on how it feels in the moment to moment interaction with the guy when they’re together.
It wasn’t over-the-top or out of the ordinary and I would just let it go since I just wanted the relationship to fall back into harmony.
Now, after 2 years into the relationship, I’m starting to question if I’m in a toxic relationship.
So things start out and she’s delighted to be with this guy that has the quality (or multiple qualities) she wanted…
she’s thrilled to be with him and the relationship is good.
In this article, I’m going to talk about whether or not you’re in a toxic relationship, how people end up in toxic relationships in the first place, and then how to fix a toxic relationship.