Knowing a friend has ghosted you, and coming to terms with the fact that, for whatever reason, they’re not going to tell you why things have changed, can be maddening.
He has a history of depression, and sometimes hypochondria.
For the past few months, he’s been experiencing a lot of symptoms that he thinks could be indicative of multiple sclerosis, cancer, or other diseases, and it’s been causing him a lot of stress.
Those are fantastic reasons to break up with someone. You seem pretty clear that you don’t see a future with this guy.
Implicit in your letter are two fears: One, that if you break up with him as he’s dealing with a possible health crisis, that makes you a bad person; and two, that he’ll try to talk you out of breaking up with him by minimizing your incompatibility and emphasizing how much he loves you.
They’ve known I’m bisexual for about five years, but it wasn’t by choice, as my mother cyberstalked and subsequently outed me.
They’re very homophobic and self-righteous, and after that breach of trust, I’ve taken the stance that they don’t have a right to know about my romantic life.All that “letting go” has to look like is respecting the fact that, for whatever reason, she doesn’t want to talk right now, and finding an appropriate time and place to let out your grief, confusion, and frustration on your own. I’m struggling to decide if I’m obligated to give these gifts to them or send them back.Giving them to him wouldn’t help with my healing process, but his family was incredibly kind to me. No, you are not obligated to give a present to your ex.I’ve tried my best to be supportive—after all, some of the symptoms could be cause for concern—but after several visits to the doctor, he has acknowledged his hypochondria and resolved to treat it. I’m ashamed to say this, but I often find myself fantasizing about past lovers.I know that to a certain degree this is normal, but I feel like I’ve gone way past normal at this point. He frequently tells me how much he loves me, and how much he wants to be with me.When it comes to the first fear, I think you can absolve yourself of any guilt.