Just 3-4 to put in my purse or in my pocket and refer to when we start looking like that elderly couple in the restaurant that remains in silence throughout the meal. Really, once you get started with one or two, it's easy to progress the conversation naturally.
I broke these down into 10 basic themes to help you start thinking about your own questions to bring up on date night.
No interrogating (no need to ask all 100 questions at once); no vague "so, what's new with you?
You can download it by clicking on the image below. Tell me in the comments – do you ever find you have nothing to talk to your spouse about?
, whether we're going "out on the town" or staying in for an at-home date. I loved the beginning, when we were simply friends learning each other's favorite color or favorite type of music.
It's also good to align our goals with each other's and with God's direction. If you could be paid to do anything, what would you do? What would you most regret not having/doing/being in life? If you had to teach something, what would you teach? If money did not exist, how would you spend your days? Best case scenario, where do you see yourself in 5-10 years?
It gives us the opportunity to state our passions so we can pursue them, and helps us know our significant other's passions and find ways to support and encourage them in those.
There are endless possibilities to complete the scenario, but you're just getting the conversation going. If you could start any non-profit or service project, what would it be?
Start with a question and let them expound with the answer.
What follows are some ideas, but certainly not as creative as this could go!
filthy rich or dirt poor I have a friend that's great at asking "would you rather" questions. But it can be fun to put creativity into coming up with different scenarios to choose from.
If you could have the perfect marriage, what would it look like? Movies are an easy and fun way to dive into topics that we might not otherwise address (or ever face). If your appearance was altered beyond recognition, how would you prove your identity to me? If you were famous for something, what would you want that to be? What movie/tv show best portrays the story of your life?
Some great conversations have resulted from watching a movie, then talking about how we would deal in those situations. What would you do if there was a world-wide power outage? What would you do if someone stole your identity and you couldn't get it back? What would you do if a couple close to you passed away and you were left to raise their child(ren)? If you had to restart your life (relationships, education, etc.), where would you start? What would your life be like if you said yes to everything? If you were to be on a reality TV show, which one would you be on?
We sometimes laugh about not talking because we both find it funny and awkward, and neither of us really knows quite how to change it. This has been bothering me for a while, and I have been puzzling how to fix it.