In his book, “Dataclysm,” he points out that who we want to be and who we really are can be two very different things.
Otherwise, any week off in which I laugh, eat and watch films somewhere lovely with my partner, constitutes the holiday of a lifetime.
Having spent my teens, twenties and thirties feeling entirely certain of my every opinion, I’m now far more likely to say “I don’t know” or “I don’t think it’s that simple”.
Is doesn’t matter if the man is 50, already had kids, and has virtually no chance of being with a 20 year old.
I once read that the reason blond women are perceived as most attractive by scores of men is that blonds have a slightly higher estrogen level than women with other hair colors.
To tell men NOT to feel this way would be akin to telling them not to breathe.
Now, I don’t always agree with all of the conclusions that Rudder draws from his Ok Cupid data.
Of course, when you flip the data around and look at what age men find women most physically appealing, you get an appalling answer. It’s shocking to see on paper, but not so surprising if you’ve ever talked to an actual man, read a men’s magazine or looked at porn intended for men.
Instead of the female curve, which suggests that 34-year-old women like 34-year-old men, men find 20 year-old women most physically appealing, no matter how old they were. This doesn’t mean that 40 year old men want to MARRY that 20 year old woman, only that they find her the most physically appealing.
I look at almost everyone in a position of authority - doctors, teachers, bank managers, librarians - and invariably think they look about nine.
I’m shocked and appalled that anyone other than my children was born post Berlin Wall and Bros.
Quite the opposite - you just cull them from your life without dwelling on why you’re not their bag.