Can you tell there is an underlying emotional maybe physical competition going on in this message? When you are truly married you are committed 100% to another woman, your wife/lover.
What they don’t realize is, they have a right to a life of their own.Parenting is supposed to be a time-limited function and we are not suppose to nurture our own parents. He’s bound to do a lot of fire fighting and repair work.If his wife is temperamental and expressive he’ll certainly have his hands full.I would recommend to such a man that he not get married until he is ready to ‘divorce’ his mother. The plan is, stay bonded to mom until such time that you are convinced that it is time to separate, meaning go off and commit to another woman.
This other woman, your wife, in effect becomes #1 in your new life. And by the way, your marriage has a better chance of surviving if this more complete commitment has occurred.It’s healthier to heal the hurt as loss and learn how to make the best life for yourself with mature forms of love as an adult person.The son’s efforts to ‘make peace’ between his wife and his mother while walking the ‘line’ between them is quite demanding.There’s a certain selfish, perhaps self-indulgent quality to this.She is really only thinking of her own needs and not the needs of her son or her daughter-in-law for that matter.Today I realized that my ex, the Narcissist of my books, had given me the biggest clue into his twisted narcissistic mind when he described himself as a “simple man”.