I'm complimented regularly on my fashion sense and dress well, sexy but not revealing. I am hoping that Parship will be different, given the Personality Profile Test and it's matching capabilities.Thus far I have had 2 "First Date Wonder" experiences with Parship and tonight I have a date scheduled that I am rather hopeful about... Any advice that you could offer would be much appreciated.Also British men are shy and they expect women to take the initiative, so a mere kiss goodnight could be interpreted as quite dismissive.
I completely disagree with the idea that suggesting a second date would seem 'too forward' I suspect it may often be the only way to get anywhere.The absence of a 'spark' that you mentioned could be because they interpret your behaviour as cool or uptight (how's that for reversing stereotypes? Also, because 'dating' is not part of British culture, a lot of men view dates as a one-off interview and if by the end of it they don't think they will fall in love you, or sleep with you they don't see any point in asking you out again.Most people go out in groups in pubs and bars and when somebody is attracted to someone, they stay behind together and chat, eventually someone plucks up the courage to kiss the other one (usually this phase is aided by copious amount of alcohol, so that if rejected they can explain themselves by saying they were drunk), and after this happens a few times they call themselves a couple.I realise this may be hard to believe but if you ask any British women who have been in a serious relationship for the last 4-5 years they'll tell you -most people don't remember ever having been on a date and certainly not more than one or two.I am not the only American woman that has the problem, as several of my fellow countrywomen complain of the same thing with the lovely men of these shores. I am not aggressive or pushy or shy or any of the stereotypical things that would turn a man off.
Back home a date that stretched on - by the man's own suggestion, not mine - from drinks, to dinner, to after dinner coffee, with conversation throughout - and then possibly even a good-night kiss would mean he was interested in at least getting to know the woman better! It seems that I can engage in good conversation and emails, even telephone conversations prior to the dates ...
There are plenty of men out there who consider themselves too good for mere mortals and who enjoy going out on streams of first dates feeling very proud of themselves for not 'settling' for anyone who they think is below their standard.
Clearly, not being asked out by them a second time is not a great loss.
All this means that British men don't really know what they're supposed to do with dates and may not even consider themselves to be on a date.
There are no set of rules that everybody knows and interprets in the same way -except that women are expected to buy rounds of drinks same as the men, and they should offer to split the bill at a restaurant.
But before you decide that your next love will be British, there are a few things that you need to know.