100 questions to ask before dating

When was the last time you dreamt about your partner? What’s the single most important thing for a relationship to be successful?

Do you like spending time with your partner’s friends and family? How often do you talk on the phone with your partner?

If we went to a store to buy a couch and both of us liked different couches, would you still go with my pick? Is sex about constantly pushing the boundaries or playing by the rules? What was the best moment in your relationship so far?

Is it really necessary to know everything from your partner’s previous relationships? Do you believe in staying with this partner for a very long time or even forever? How do you feel when your partner has to leave you for some time because of work or studying? Will you say sorry to your partner even though it’s not your fault? When was the last time you had an in-depth conversation with your partner? In a relationship, what would make you feel happier, sharing or sacrificing? Would you lie to make me happy and where would you draw the line? Have you not let your partner do something just because you feel jealous or angry? How do you feel when others find your partner attractive?

Do you think past relationship secrets should always be kept hidden? Do you think confessions make a relationship stronger?

So many people create new relationships on the wreckage of old interactions. I’ll live with myself 24/7 for the rest of my life and if I choose to blend my life with another’s, that is crucial.

As Joe Jackson sagely says “You can’t get what you want, til you know what you want.” There are questions I didn’t ask myself in earlier years, both pre and post-marriage and conversations that I wish I had back then. My vivid imagination conjures up images of a dynamic, ever-growing “third entity” that combines the sum of the parts of the two of us.I noticed myself nodding in recognition as I ticked off the kinds of issues that clients I have seen as a therapist for the past three decades have presented in our sessions.They range from not knowing the person in the mirror well enough to being disillusioned by the person on the other side of the bed. Are you in a relationship only because you enjoy the excitement or the feeling to be loved and cared about? Does this partner make you forget the painful feeling of your previous relationships? Do you look forward to your future with your partner? Are you keeping any secrets that you’re afraid of letting your partner know? Do you think your partner’s friends and family like you? Do you feel that your partner accepts the way you are? What are some annoying habits of other couples that irritate you the most? Who would you prefer as a partner, a good looking person or an extremely clever person? How do you vent out your frustrations in a relationship? Describe your perfect man/woman that you would like to date. Facebook is in talks with major corporate media about pulling their content into FB, leaving other sites to wither or pay up if we want to connect with you, our readers. Sign up for our curated, quality newsletters below.